Yes I do
believe that we are creatures of our culture.
Our lives are shaped by the way the people around us behave. Many of my
mannerisms come from the habits of my family members. (I blame my dad for my
mild OCD.) It’s a pretty simple concept though. You see people do things around
you and you just tend to pick it up. This is true when you are young because
you really don’t have any other frame of reference. Its just how we learn as
children; our surroundings shape who we grow up to be. Even if you don’t
necessarily like everything going on around you, it still influences who you don’t
want to be. Breaking through the limits of our cultures really comes down to
how open minded you are. I feel that being open minded also has to do with our
culture. If you grow up to be stubborn then you will just be set in your ways
and not really ever change your culture.
Hi NFGShadow,
ReplyDeleteI agree that we are creatures of learned habit. I find it interesting as I watch my children grow how much they act like my husband and I. And then I see attributes of our parents in our kids and start noticing them in us. Growing up (like most people) I always said I am not going to be like my parents, not because they are bad people, but because I was a teenager who "knew everything" and I "knew my parents were wrong". But, as I become the person I am, I am noticing that I am my mother's daughter to a T. I act like her, talk like her, and the older I get I look like her. It goes without saying that I have learned many things from my parents and my children are learning from me every day. I only hope that I am teaching them to be open-minded along with everything else.
i agree with you as well! that’s kinda what i wrote in my blog about this subject. we learn to do things as we see them be done whether we mean to or not. i had to write a paper once on why hitting/spanking children is bad and one of my main points was that kids are like "monkey see monkey do" if the kids get hit they think it is ok to hit. along you with i think i got my OCD from my mom! always cleaning everything has to be perfect and now, i cant even go to bed with my room dirty or it stresses me out. knowing what i know now, when i become a mom i will make sure that everything i do, i will be okay with my children doing it to someday.
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